“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke
“The question is the path.” ~ Tath R Ashcraft, Fearless Giving
As I shift my focus from getting to giving, the questions take me down a new path. It’s interesting to notice how much language shapes thought. Simply shifting my perspective from ‘what do I want to get out of the situation’ to ‘what do I want to give myself in this situation’ changes everything. It is one of nourishment. It is one of kindness. Truth be told, it is a hell of a lot more enjoyable. There is more order in my life. There is less resistance.
It’s very interesting.
As I did my affirmations this morning, even the pressure with which I wrote the words changed. It was lighter. Gentler. Less painful. Instead of writing, “I am committed to losing weight” it was, “I am committed to nourishing my body.” Instead of each line being a force from an external goal, it became an alignment with an internal expression of love.
It was frigging awesome.
I found myself throwing out things I no longer wanted. I found myself caring about order. None of it was “should.” All of it was “want to.”
Somehow or another, all the coercion was eliminated. It makes life much more pleasant.
Inadvertently, I have managed to stumble into living some of the answers simply by allowing myself the luxury of loving the questions.
What is it about just being with the question without the need to feel it must be answered immediately? By just loving the questions themselves the energy shifts. It is powerful to trust that the answers will come without the need to rush in and fill the space.
From A Course in Miracles perspective, it is about returning to innocence and eliminating the need for sin:
Do I desire a world I rule instead of one that rules me?
Do I desire a world where I am powerful instead of helpless?
Do I desire a world in which I have no enemies and cannot sin?
And do I want to see what I denied because it is the truth?
Clever fellow that Ashcraft is, he has managed to get to the truth without the need to pull God into the picture. Now, make no mistake, he is pulling God in, but he is going in the back door. By shifting the focus from getting to giving, even if the giving has the appearance of being selfish (I am committed to giving myself the gift of order in my world), the true Self is in charge. Ego is shut down.
Ashcraft has two questions. This is the one to begin the day with: “Every morning, right upon awakening, ask yourself this question; ‘What do I want to give myself, my circle, or my world that is unique to this day?’” He ends the day with: “Every evening after you have gotten into bed, before you drift off, please ask yourself this questions. ‘What did I give myself, my circle, or my world today?’”
In neither instance does he think it important to know the answer. This is about learning to love the questions themselves.
All I know for sure is that to me, it feels very in line with the Course without the need to focus on ego’s shenanigans. Ashcraft uses the analogy of a seesaw and says that coming from this place of giving is like being the pivot point. There is no stress of up and down; it is perfectly balanced. It is being in the middle (the place of no judgment) where the next right thing appears without conflict or strife. Without coercion of should, the question is what do I want to give? What would make my heart happy to share?
And that, dear readers, is what teaching only love is all about.
Namaste, my friends, Namaste.