All about the happiness – from last year: because if I’m sad, I’ve forgotten who I really am.
And honestly, I love being happy.
I am a happy person. In fact, I sometimes get teased for how annoyingly happy I am. I’m not trying to brag here and be even more annoying, I’m just stating a fact: I am a happy person. I am a happy person because for me, it’s all about the happiness. I’m here to show God a good time and although I am not off on grand adventures (though I’m planning on scheduling some into my future here in a bit), I am content. Extremely content. I like my life. In general, I’ve liked my life for quite a while. I’m grateful for so many aspects of it and I am a firm believer that gratitude is the key to happiness. Gratitude is the squasher of discontentment. You can’t be grateful and happy and discontent all at the same time.
So these A Course in Miracles lessons are like icing: they are invitations to practice what I am already good at. That pleases me somehow. It makes me happy to get a little break and just practice doing what I am already good at. It’s a permission slip of sorts. I like permission slips.
I share God’s Will for happiness for me.
You do not want to suffer. You may think it buys you something, and may still believe a little that it buys you what you want. Yet this belief is surely shaken now, at least enough to let you question it, and to suspect it really makes no sense. It has not gone as yet, but lacks the roots that once secured it tightly to the dark and hidden secret places of your mind.
Today we try to loose its weakened hold still further, and to realize that pain is purposeless, without a cause and with no power to accomplish anything. It cannot purchase anything at all. It offers nothing, and does not exist. And everything you think it offers you is lacking in existence, like itself. You have been slave to nothing. Be you free today to join the happy Will of God.
For several days we will continue to devote our periods of practicing to exercises planned to help you reach the happiness God’s Will has placed in you. Here is your home, and here your safety is. Here is your peace, and here there is no fear. Here is salvation. Here is rest at last.
Begin your practice periods today with this acceptance of God’s Will for you:
I share God’s Will for happiness for me, and
I accept it as my function now.
Then seek this function deep within your mind, for it is there, awaiting but your choice. You cannot fail to find it when you learn it is your choice, and that you share God’s Will.
Be happy, for your only function here is happiness. You have no need to be less loving to God’s Son than He Whose Love created him as loving as Himself. Besides these hourly five-minute rests, pause frequently today, to tell yourself that you have now accepted happiness as your one function. And be sure that you are joining with God’s Will in doing this.
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Happiness is a choice. I’ve said that for years, and this lesson reinforces that notion. “You cannot fail to find it when you learn it is your choice, and that you share God’s Will.” I have literally found myself in situations where I’ve noticed that I was at choice and that I could choose to be happy or I could choose to be miserable.
My thoughts often lie to me, after all. I know that just because I have a thought (“God, what a miserable jackass that guy is!”) doesn’t make it true. Invariably, it is a matter of accepting that maybe, just maybe, God knows better than I do. Invariably, it is a matter of choosing to go with the flow or to fight it.
Example One: Some jackass (no judgment!) cuts me off in traffic and nearly causes an accident. I can choose to get all pissed off about it and grumble about what a jerk the guy is, or I can blow it off, knowing I have likely done the same at times and taking it as a reminder to be present to my environment. I can choose to share my happiness, or I can choose to allow him to steal it (although honestly, I am the one who gave it away).
Example two: I’ve been invited to a party. My husband is invited, too, but my husband doesn’t enjoy parties so he almost never goes. By now, it’s a no-brainer, but years ago I made a choice about such situations. I could try to cajole him into going (not usually a successful tactic and one neither of us enjoys). I could decline the invitation. Or I could go without him and enjoy myself. I almost always choose to go without him, unless I don’t want to go, of course, but I don’t allow his feelings about it to influence mine.
Happiness is a choice and life is all about the happiness. Why make myself miserable for no good reason?
The answer as to why humans do this is that we think it gets us something that we want. “You do not want to suffer. You may think it buys you something, and may still believe a little that it buys you what you want.”
We get to play the martyr or the victim. We can eschew responsibility. “It’s not my fault!” See, that’s the rub. Happiness comes with personal responsibility.
Sometimes choosing happiness is going to make me look bad. You just lost your job, but I am still happy – oops! Was I supposed to sacrifice my happiness as a demonstration of solidarity? Was I supposed to commiserate?
Happiness doesn’t commiserate. Happiness is shared.
Instead of feeling bad because you lost your job, allow me to remind you of all the ways you’ve bitched about it for the last seven years and how you hate your boss and how this is the perfect opportunity to now choose happiness.
I know. Annoying. Oh well.
“Be happy, for your only function here is happiness.”
Look, I’d rather be infectious in my happiness than pretend to muster compassion for other people’s bad situations. I mean, it’s not that I have no empathy. I’m very empathic, but for heaven’s sake, let’s take back our power here! I’m not interested in helping my friends and family wallow. I’m not a good wallowing companion. I actually had one of my closest friends get quite upset with me once when I refused to wallow with her. She still loves me but in that moment she very much understood that if she wanted a wallowing companion, I wasn’t her girl.
You see, for me it is all about the happiness and I’ve done more than my fair share of feeling sorry for myself and playing victim and crying in my beer over all the awfulness. I’m done awfulizing. Can’t go there. Can’t do that. Sorry.
I choose happiness. I choose to believe God’s got my back. I choose to believe the Universe is conspiring in my favor.
Which means I have relinquished my right to complain and I’m not overly anxious to listen to other people’s complaints. When I hear people complaining, I know they’ve forgotten to be grateful. I know they are listening to their egos and not to the Holy Spirit. I know they’ve forgotten who they really are and that it is my job to remember for them.
Choose again, I tell them. You are at choice. Choose again.
So, thank you God for this lovely, easy lesson. Thank you that I know how to be happy. Thank you that I realize happiness is a choice. I’m always at choice. If I don’t like where I am at, what I am doing, the way my life is going then the logical (and I’m quite logical) choice is to pick something else, something that makes me happy.
And I know,, I know, sometimes it feels like you’re stuck. I’ve been in those situations. I know stuck. We used to hang out together all the time, but this is what I know about stuck – you’re only stuck until you decide not to be. We live in America. We have choices.
Don’t like your job? Look for another one. Or follow your passion in your spare time and see where that leads you. Because, remember, it’s all about the happiness so all you have to do is choose what makes you happy. (Which, FYI, in case anyone is keeping track, is why I write every morning. No one pays me. No one makes me do it. I do it because I love it. I love to write and I love A Course in Miracles.)
Don’t like your spouse? Either divorce him or start to see the good in him. Either find a way to walk away or find a way to love what you have. (Or find a way to transform the relationship but chances are really good that the way to do that is acceptance.) That’s really what it always comes down to. Learning to accept and love what you have or finding a way to change it. Which one is up to you. Which is the “right” choice? I have no idea – but you do. Imagine yourself ten years from now – what do you see yourself doing? Who’s with you? That’s your clue. Or ask the Holy Spirit. It’s amazing how often we forget to do that.
Anyway, I have happiness to go share. The day is a-wasting and my only function here is happiness.
And luckily, I know how to do happiness. I know how to be happy. It’s all about the happiness.
Namaste, my friends, Namaste.