So this was written three years ago. Today is our 26th wedding anniversary and we still feel like we look in this picture — crazy about each other!
Twenty-three years ago today, at just about this time, Jay and I were in the midst of our wedding ceremony. It was Sunday. The wedding was set for 11:00 a.m. EST. It was a cool, fall day with clouds that threatened but sun that would prevail. I was excited and happy, and I felt like I was living a dream come true. Because I knew this man the moment I let him. When I met him (in this lifetime) some 29 years ago, I was haunted by the imprint of him. I recognized him. Our souls knew each other. I couldn’t believe when I met him that he was married to someone else with a baby. I couldn’t wrap my brain around it because it just seemed so wrong that he should be unavailable (we’ll ignore the fact that technically I was, too – but, I wasn’t legally married to my housemate).
So after resigning myself to the fact that we were apparently not meant to be together in this lifetime, it seemed miraculous that we were in fact getting married. I kept pinching myself.
For years, on our anniversary, we would watch our wedding video. Now, we no longer own a VCR (it’s on VHS) and so now I need to find someone to copy it to DVD for me.
So, anyway, here’s to twenty-three years. I’m skipping church today and we are off to find some excitement.
Our Wedding Vows:
This is my vow of unconditional love and acceptance.
I vow to always look for the good in you, not to judge you as right or wrong, but to see you as you are – a person on his/her own path, exactly where you should be, even if your actions or words may not match my hopes or expectations.
I vow to accept you as you are, to look at you always with a heart that understands that your way is right for you, and to always hold fast that vision of your true higher self who is rooted in love, even if you yourself may sometimes forget.
The greatest gift I can give both of us is to see always with a clear heart that knows your true essence, and my own, and to trust the goodness of that essence.
I vow to never hold a grudge, and to forgive both myself and you if either of us should slip and forget to trust, or become fearful, for through forgiveness love will always prevail.
This is my vow of unconditional love and acceptance, for I have seen the beauty of your soul, and my heart can never forget or pretend it doesn’t know.
Namaste, my friends, Namaste.